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Post by Divebitch on Jan 4, 2019 22:07:17 GMT -5
It's finally hitting me hard. I've kept it together, without really trying. It's just what happens when you're involved - reading, advising, printing, faxing, shipping docs, and in general working through all the total incompetence and BS the agents, mortgage broker, and banks put him through. So we went out for our last dinner tonight, along with his roommate and his GF, who I never met. So it was mostly fluff talk. And talking to him later, it's hitting me even harder how much harder it's been for him than me. So much, it's making me sick. Nine years and a month, lived together for half that time. We see/saw each other 3 times a week, talk at least 3 times a day. We're just there for each other, and still intend to be. But it'll never be the same. But hopefully his quality of life will improve. Hoping mine will as well when I move to the opposite coast (of Florida). After 15 years here in Philly, I have no real friends. No one I can even call to meet up for coffee. It's fine, I haven't gone out of my way to make new friends. It doesn't come as easy as it used to anyway, not in this environment. I can't wait to get out of here. Wish I could just snap my fingers, pay the money with what's left of it when the stock market is done crashing, and it's done - before the strength to cope with it all is gone.
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Post by craig440 on Jan 4, 2019 22:34:34 GMT -5
You'll be fine. Hope it goes good for you on your move. Why are you moving to the opposite coast? And oh what are you talking about? The stock market is not crashing. It went up so high so fast two years ago and now it has just made a correction. Still higher than it was two years ago. Went up 746 today.
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Post by Steelers 1954 on Jan 4, 2019 22:59:09 GMT -5
Moving is always a hard thing to do moving to another state is harder. When I moved here from Pa. I knew it was the best thing that could've happened for me & my family. Take a deep breath then exhale it seems like a lot now but once yo have moved & settled in things will get better. You know if you need to I'm just a phone call away.
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Post by Divebitch on Jan 4, 2019 23:01:58 GMT -5
You'll be fine. Hope it goes good for you on your move. Why are you moving to the opposite coast? And oh what are you talking about? The stock market is not crashing. It went up so high so fast two years ago and now it has just made a correction. Still higher than it was two years ago. Went up 746 today. IDK, I'd be more fine if I don't finally tonight look back on the past 2 months and see how hard I've been on him through all this. I'd get angry at the situation, and thus how he was handling it, or allowing it and everyone involved in it to handle him. I'd get controlling and condescending at times - and although it was coming from a very, very good place, it only stressed him out more. Cuz he can be very pig-headed - bitches but won't take my sage advice. I'm just really emotional right now. It's the kind of regret you'd associate with mourning. Maybe in a way it is. Anyway, yeah, the market recovered from yesterday, but not from the 26k the DOW was at early fall. My move is not quite as imminent or set. Hopefully my the end of my lease (June, but who knows. I gotta be by the ocean, not the Gulf. South Beach was my getaway 2 or 3 times a winter from when I was 15 til my mom sold her place (maybe 18 - 20 yrs ago). I've never seen where I'm planning to moving until 3 weeks ago. But it's like a salmon returning to spawn, it's gotta be the east coast. And he's not even really on the coast, it's like a river, then some swamp land, then an island on the Gulf. Cape Coral is all canals too, I hear there are lots of rats.
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Post by Divebitch on Jan 4, 2019 23:04:57 GMT -5
Moving is always a hard thing to do moving to another state is harder. When I moved here from Pa. I knew it was the best thing that could've happened for me & my family. Take a deep breath then exhale it seems like a lot now but once yo have moved & settled in things will get better. You know if you need to I'm just a phone call away. Thanks! Danny is moving, not me, at least not yet. I'm looking at at least 4 or 5 months away. I'll probably take you up on that phone call soon, been meaning to.
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Post by craig440 on Jan 5, 2019 0:49:10 GMT -5
You got my number also Bev and I'm always there for you if you want someone to listen. Unless I'm in surgery or something. haha. Really. Being emotional when things are changing is normal.
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Post by Divebitch on Jan 5, 2019 7:35:09 GMT -5
You got my number also Bev and I'm always there for you if you want someone to listen. Unless I'm in surgery or something. haha. Really. Being emotional when things are changing is normal. Well, I know you don't like to talk much, but thanks. Well, you said to just listen, so maybe. lol I'm not one of those to just blabber on knowing someone hears me. Your last sentence is so true. However, for the sake of wanting to get things done right, you dismiss or temporarily set aside the emotions. Only once all the deeds are done can you breathe that sigh. And with that, the floodgates open. Through all his physical pain and health issues, he had to deal with me, albeit his best advocate, even over himself. Often all for naught, but you can't help trying to save someone you love. Well, he should be here with friends in just a couple hours to pick up his Lazy Boy and a huge loveseat. Hopefully room to take my bike so it doesn't get crushed in my own move (he rented a trailer).
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